What is social phobia?
It is normal to have fear up to a specific limit. However, when the fear crosses the normal boundary, it becomes a mental disorder. The term ‘phobia’ signifies irrational fear about any activity, situation, or thing. Phobia can be intensive to cause abnormal behavior. Phobia can be for different fears such as fear of height, fear of water, fear of fire, etc. Likewise, ‘social phobia’ or ‘social anxiety disorder’ relates to a paralyzing fear of interacting with others. Fear is there in the mind of every individual naturally. However, the extent of fear can differ from person to person.
What is exactly a Social Phobia Disorder? Let us know: Social phobia is an abnormal fear in mind to talk to others. A person with social phobia disorder tries to avoid people, remains aloof. Avoids friends, relatives, well-wishers, and even members in the family. Physical symptoms of social phobia include blushing (being too much shy), sweating, trembling, and rapid heartbeat. Social phobia can start in the early stages of childhood and can prolong in adulthood. The disorder can negatively affect one’s education and career. In extreme cases, the patient can resort to a sedentary life, drug abuse, or create his/her world of thoughts.
Overcoming Social Phobia
Statistics reveal that as many as 40% of people can have social phobia and similar mental disorders, even in developed countries! The condition can paralyze the person from achieving ordinary accomplishments. The positive side of the problem is that it can be overcome by conscious efforts initiated by the well-wishers or family members and at a later stage by the individual himself. The most powerful ways to overcome social phobia are:
1. Auto suggestions:
Auto suggestions that build up confidence levels can be beneficial in gradually lowering the fears and establishing control over the negative thoughts. For instance, writing down affirmative sentences like: “Everyone likes me,” “Day-by-day, I am improving,” “My confidence is improving.” Repeatedly giving such suggestions to oneself, the fear gets subsided. The underlying reason for such fear can be guilt or a notion of something lacking in oneself. When the inner mind or subconscious mind repeatedly gets positive suggestions that eliminate the negative block, the fear slowly vanishes. We know that light and darkness cannot coexist. When the awn comes, darkness automatically disappears.
2. Challenging negative thoughts:
If you challenge your negative thoughts, you can develop control over your emotions. You start thinking affirmatively. Nothing in the world can overpower you unless you give a chance to do so.
3. Practicing meditation:
Get control over emotions and mental processes through meditation. Meditation is essentially a process to focus the mind on the desired objective. With practice, it becomes possible to get complete control over mental processes or thought processes. This way, the regular course of meditation certainly eliminates negative mental blocks.
4. Follow your passion:
Identify what activities can unconditionally give you satisfaction, fulfillment, or happiness. That is your real passion. Experts recommend, “Make your passion a profession.” It enhances self-esteem and confidence, which, in turn, clears phobias or fears.
5. Listing and clearing fearful thoughts:
List the possible consequences of your interaction with people. Logically think over each one of them about what harm at the most the result can create for you. Mostly, it is all about how you react to a stimulus than what the trigger does to you, making all the difference.
6. Stop focusing on yourself:
Too much concern for yourself can limit your freedom to act fearlessly. For example, instead of taking your problem to an authority, you can comfortably take your friend’s question to the same higher authority. A self-less attitude gives you the power to interact better.
7. Developing positive habits:
Interaction with people is a trait that can develops bit by bit. The world is a mirror of your thoughts. You get a response from the external world based on your thought processes. It is good to develop empathy, i.e., the ability to understand others. When you talk openly to another person, in return, the other person starts talking openly to you. So if you develop the ability to speak freely and frankly to others as a habit, your social phobias get vanished.
8. Breathing techniques:
Focusing thoughts on your breathing helps. Similarly, deep breathing can relieve you from stressful anxiety instantaneously. Regular practice of breathing gives excellent control over your thought process.
9. Faith in a superpower:
Your faith in a superior authority can save you from negative thoughts. The superpower maybe God or your Guru or your Guide or merely a well-wisher. Faith can change your thought process. Confidence empowers your mind to act affirmatively. Faith in your true guide can help you overcome Social Phobia Disorder.