In the past, when I think of the two Personality Life Agendas, Development and Change, I think about two things. One is a more grown up self who has finally become self aware.
And the other is a person who has lost control. In a very deep sense, I think about a person who has lost self-esteem. This person feels they are so pathetic, they feel an addiction to praise.
Well this is a very disturbing situation for any person to be in. The reason it is so disturbing is that this person is never able to take care of themselves. This person has no self respect, no self esteem, no self confidence, no self-satisfaction.
This is just a fact of life, and that’s the fact that if we can find a way to overcome that we will always come out on top and have much more success. Because there is no such thing as a failure, because what matters in life is how you deal with failure. So in that sense you have got to learn to accept yourself for who you are.
Now when you are dealing with something that you think is a failure, you can either be nice, or you can be strong. And that’s the kind of strength that will make all the difference in the world, because it’s a matter of self-respect, it’s a matter of self-confidence, it’s a matter of self-satisfaction.
So, when you go back and you look at the early stages of your life; you will see that Development and Change are always going to be a part of your life. That is the foundation for everything else. And this is something that if you allow to build, you will have so much self-confidence and self-esteem, that you will become unstoppable in whatever you do. It may seem impossible, but if you can just keep this mindset and continue to persevere, then you will do amazing things.
So when you are thinking about personality and development life, you’re going to realize that even though there may be two different agendas, the overall goal is to achieve self-sufficiency. And this is what you must strive for in whatever you are doing. You will find out that this is the most important thing in life, because you cannot depend on anyone else for anything in life.
As I said, in the early stages of your life you will find yourself involved in some amazing things. But as you get older, you will find that you can only go as far as your ego is willing to take you.
As I mentioned earlier, a couple of years ago I ran into a lady who was so determined to be a real; live, total personality that she literally stayed at her own funeral. She had to go and be the happiest woman alive, and then come back and die.
And she also had to leave behind her husband and her three children; and be a good mother, even though she didn’t want to be a mother. What she did was she dressed up in her bathing suit and went to the funeral.
She was so determined to make the family happy, even though she didn’t want to. You see, she took this mantle of being a good mother; she wanted to be a hero to everyone else.
In Personality Life you will find that you cannot use your ego to be proud of yourself; or to be in a position of power. If you can gain that much power over others, then you don’t have to be a hero. You have the ability to change the course of life for the better and achieve that.