Fake confidence only works to some extent and in case that is all you have, you should use it. There are many people who use fake confidence in order to get things done. However, you should know that fake confidence is only going to work for a short time. For most people, as time goes by, this fake confidence can convert to insecurity. Eventually, you will also start to believe that you are faking it and you are not good. Reliance will then be replaced by self-doubt.
Real vs. Fake Confidence
Real confidence is actually feeling self-assured. This arises from the appreciation of your abilities of qualities. Fake confidence, on the other hand, is faking to be self-assured about your own qualities or abilities. The word that you need to focus on is faking or pretending. When you fake it, you actually believe that you aren’t good at what you are actually doing. You also doubt that you have the personal qualities required to become confident.
There is a saying, ‘fake it till you make it’ and it seems to work. When you do not have it, you immerse yourself into fake confidence, and eventually you develop reliance. Nevertheless, this just works for some people and some things. For instance, you might be a yoga teacher who is faking confidence. With time, as you repeat the different yoga poses over and over, you might become confident in teaching yoga.
The method is only going to work if you are able to immerse yourself in the thing that you faking to be confident in. When you indulge yourself hours after hours on a specific skill that you would like to develop, there will come a time when you will be able to make it and become confident.
However, there are many things in life that you would like to be confident about such as your qualities and ourselves and it is not something that you will be able to immerse yourself in.
For instance, you want to be confident that you are a good person who deserves good things in life. There is no way you will be able to fake it to make it happen. Trying to fake it in your personal qualities is just useless as you will attract situations that are going perpetuate negative feedback.
Ways To Gain
Here are some ways you will be able to gain self-confidence:
- You should choose to be confident in only a few things instead of faking that you know everything. Sure, if being the jack of all trades is your thing, you can but you should have real confidence in a skill that you instead of simply passing knowledge.
- Make sure that you indulge yourself in the skills that you would like to be popular for. Learn the thing so well that you are good enough to teach it to anyone. If you are able to teach someone what you learned, it will improve your reliance.
- Opt for skills that you think are going to be fun. This is because when you have a good time practicing something, you can be at ease with it and enjoy the moment. It will make you more comfortable and confident at what you are doing.
Remember, real confidence is attractive. So, you should work to develop real confidence.