The Six Pillars of Self-E Steem is an outgrowth of Dr. Nathaniel Branden’s psychology book, The Psychology of Self-Evaluation. Dr. Branden is recognized as the “father” of this particular self-help movement and this particular book is his most widely distributed work. In his book, Dr. Branden defines what he feels are the six key components that lower or elevate an individual’s self-esteem.
These six pillars of self-esteem consist of Consciousness, Vibration, Intuition, Desire, Compliance, and Focus. Each of these items is discussed in detail and they are all interrelated. The purpose of this discussion is to teach individuals how to effectively use all of these aspects of themselves to improve their self-confidence level and overall level of self-worth. This information will help individuals become more aware of how their thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and reactions affect their level of self-respect.
The first of the six pillars of self-esteem is consciousness. We are all essentially conscious to some degree. Some of us are more consciously aware of our behavior than others. Those of us who are more consciously aware of our behavior will, by definition, be able to change our behavior to better match our standards. However, some individuals have an inherent tendency towards unawareness. These individuals must work extremely hard to consciously monitor their thoughts and their actions if they want to improve their level of self-worth.
Values And Beliefs
The second of the six pillars of self-esteem is values and beliefs. Those who have a strong sense of their value and beliefs are much more likely to be able to maintain their high self-esteem than are individuals who are less grounded in their values and beliefs. Those who have a strong sense of who they are as people will also be better able to manage their low self-esteem because the value and beliefs of those who are concerned with their values and beliefs will also be grounded and supportive in their life.
Those who are not grounded in their values and beliefs will often act in ways that are contrary to what their deeper values and beliefs are. An example of someone who is lacking in their consciousness regarding their behavior will often take responsibility for what happens in their lives. People who are not grounded in their conscience but who are living consciously can only do so much to control their behavior. For example, an individual who feels helpless regarding a particular situation may decide to take responsibility for the feelings of those around them to make it easier for them to deal with the situation.
The concept of self-responsibility and living consciously is important because it brings awareness to the fact that one cannot do everything. One must be willing to take responsibility for the consequences of one’s actions. It is also important to take into consideration the fact that one cannot place the blame for one’s actions on somebody else. In other words, if you place the blame on somebody else for your actions, you are indirectly placing the blame on somebody else for your lack of self-respect and low self-esteem.
On the other hand, an individual who has a higher level of consciousness and self-esteem has a higher level of self-awareness and accountability for their behaviors and emotions. If you are dealing with a person who has very low self-esteem and relies on guilt for controlling their behavior, they are likely to fall back into their patterns and behaviors. The key here is for an individual with a higher level of consciousness and self-esteem to get involved in the process of improving their self-image, and this can be done by getting rid of the guilt complex surrounding the situation. This type of behavior requires that an individual puts their attention onto themselves so that they can work on changing their negative thoughts and behaviors.
Achieving the kind of self-confidence that we need can only come from learning to become more conscious about ourselves and what we do not like about ourselves. This can be accomplished by putting our attention on ourselves so that we can begin to develop higher integrity and a higher level of self-responsibility. One example of taking our focus away from ourselves would be when we are trying to accomplish something and we get distracted by something else. This can be done consciously as well as unconsciously. Another good way to do this is when we are working on a task that we are not sure of the outcome yet, but we keep working on it regardless.